By Rose DesRochers
Don't always believe everything you hear. How many times have you heard that saying in your life? Just because someone said something negative about you does not mean that people actually believed it. People will talk negatively about you because they can.
Those who gossip and belittle you live for this kind of drama. Every time that they say something negative about you, they are just pointing out their own faults. Everyone has an opinion. Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one. Just because someone has an opinion of you, it does not mean that it has any value.I have found that people will talk negative about you just for the sake of talk. I’ve found people will say things about you based upon what they would like to be true, not on the facts.
Don't play their childish games. Turn their negativity into positive energy. Ignore their claims. If you allow other opinions to damage your life, then you are allowing them to control your life. Don't let negative people who talk gossip keep you from your dreams. You don't need their approval.
If you were more confident in yourself, it would not matter at all what others said about you. I have had some pretty bizarre things said about me and they only make me laugh. When you flush those negative people out of your life , you'll have the ability to spend more time improving your life.
Isn't it funny how the ones who dislike you the most, spend their every free moment talking about you. If they hated you so much, why is it that they create so much attention towards you. You would think if they didn't like you that they would avoid you at all cost and move on. But they can't and they actually think that they are getting to you. When the truth is that you are likely getting to them, more than they would like to admit. It is a matter of jealousy and controlling. They need someone to blame for their problems. Problems arise when you allow them to have power over you. They must always have that last word. When you have what it takes to succeed in life and they don't, it creates jealousy. When they learn that they can't control you, it creates anger.
People like this attract more of their type and soon you have a group of losers with nothing better to do, than sit around and put you down. Though most of the things they say may be mean spirited, you'll have a group like them who will believe it and then you'll have the group of folks who sit back quietly and say nothing. They say nothing because it is obvious that what they are doing is nothing more than a witch hunt.
Are we adults or we still in high school? This kind of backbiting is something we did in our younger high school days. It is not something that grown adults do. People will continue to gossip and behave in this kind of unhealthy behavior because they can and it makes them feel bigger.
While they are behaving like children, we as responsible adults must find ways to cope with the gossip and move on with our lives. By all means don't get caught up in their games. Their comments were noted but not needed. Smile and remember that we all deal with negative people and gossip, at one time in our lives. Some of us have grown up, while others never will. A wise man once said "Smart is when you believe only half of what you hear."
About the Author: Rose DesRochers, Canada
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http://www.todays-woman.net Rose is a published author and web columnist. She is also the founder of Today's Woman a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18.
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